in my opinion the best thing you can do is just get involved in the community. If you're going to do all of those changes to the rig, get the most stripped down basic X model you can find and then just get involved in the jeep events and community. right seat with people when they wheel and ask people to take you for a ride around the block so you can see how different setups handle. keep an eye on what new mods guys are doing and keep track of what you like, and what you dislike and then decide how you want to build your rig. Ultimately, you're the one who has to drive and wheel it, so set it up the way you figure out that you like. Don't rush into it and feel like you've gotta build some bad ass jeep overnight. take your time, and enjoy the mods as you get them done. rushing is a good way to make sure you end up replacing new parts when you decide you like something better. I know that's a pretty generic response, but it's the best approach in my opinion.
I like driving my jeep around while wearing a suit....it says I'm formal, but I'm here to party.